I was just thinking, we see alot of couples in this genearation. No, i'm talking about the older generation, i'm talking about the younger ones, be it couples who are not married, or newly married. I mean when i look at them, alot of questions goes through my mind. As to, does this guy go for this girl because she is pretty? But then dump her when he sees a better one?
Then again, i do see some girls with some not so good looking guys, in terms of body figure and looks. I guess, what's of the heart that really counts huh? I have to admit i've been in some boy gal relationship before, and the amount of money, strength and most of all time i put into those past relationship was unimaginable, i can still remember vividly the amount of money spend, time and efford. No joke i would say!!
It has been 1 year and a half now since i ended my last relationship. I remember those days when i was still in my early teens, when u like someone, you would do whatever it takes to make that girl happy, even though when i saved only RM50,just to buy the girl a diamond necklace, it would be very important and worth while. What then if she rejects? Those days when the work "drive" doesn't fit in you dictionary, and all you have is just a bicycle. Having to cycle distance just to meet with her, doesn't matter whether you sweat like hell, i would do it, and i have!!
The most famous part is the PHONE!! its then best means of communication when motorcycle was a forbidden means, let alone CAR. So there i was talking on the phone, sounding like a mice. Super soft, so gentle, compared to the way i speak to my family. It was like a mice micing and a cat meowing.
After all that has been said and done, i wonder is this all worth my while? IS it worth my money, time, and efford? Especially when the ending was horrid?
I guess it all depends,for me if the relationship was not meant by God, then it is not worth it. Or if it is a bad relationship in terms of boundaries,then let it go. But for me, when i love someone, i want to make it permemant and truth, not just for the sake of having a girlfriend and think that it would be cool. But to be there for her for better or for worse, for riches or pooreth, i want to have a relationship till marriage and then till death.
How serious do YOU take a promise made?
What about you? What is your opinion? Drop some comments or anything.
Thursday, October 27, 2005
How much?
Posted by J-mes at 12:29 PM
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Relationship huh. I would say mine was worth it. The experiences I gain from spending all that time and money on her... she is worth more than time and money. Yea, I would like mine to be once and forever, but God put people in your life so you can heal them as well at times. Puts you in a relationship with a girl who's been told she's not all that pretty but to you, she's pretty and you start telling her that, giving her hope. When it's time to seperate, though it's sad, she got something out of it. You, well, you'd probably get patience from her telling you she doesn't think herself as pretty.
What you put into a relationship, it's worth much more than what you get out of it. Yea, I would love my next one to be the on I could say "I do!" in the end as well, but I'll let God put the girl in my life at the right time. Saying that, I still say relationships that were broken are still inportant in many level.
Whoa.. Really serious post.. Rather than thinking whether the money and effort worth it or not, I would rather say think first whenever you spend or do something.. Riding a bike all the way just to see the one is fine with me, coz you really love that person and I'm sure it touches that person as well.. But if you wanna buy something, better set yourself a limit first.. We're still students or young working adults..
Ok so what if the relationship doesn't turn out fine?? The effort you put it in might seem wasted, but hey it's part of life.. You're bound to meet some break ups coz you never know who is exactly the right one, only God knows.. You can't don't get into a relationship just coz you'll waste your efforts if it doesn't turn out well.. Thus it is important to start looking for one when you're ready, when God says you can start.. So you will be able to handle it emotionally if it turns out bad..
Haha.. who doesn't want their first love to be the one and only?? But like I said you won't know exactly who is it until you're on the altar.. But I come down to one observation: if you wait for God, most of the time you won't be disappointed.. For me, both of us really want to make it a success... So it really helps when both have a common goal. To tell the truth, being in a long distance relationship can be torturing, but in a way I can concentrate more on other stuffs, like God and studies.. Same for him.. That's all I wanna share =)
I think I read this somewhere.
"The secret to long lasting relationships is to keep falling in love with the person over and over again"
Slowly think about that, perhaps it might lit a lightbulb.
(sorry I didn't get to write a 2000 word essay)
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